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這個月在市圖借到這本我非常喜歡的繪本，我非常的喜歡這段作者寫為什麼她會寫這本書的原因, Vivek特地將這段文字翻譯成中文跟正在閱讀這篇文章的朋友們分享：

I wonder By Annaka Haris   Illustrated By John Rowe

我相信我們可以給我們的孩子最重要的禮物之一就是可以肯定的說“我不知道”。“不知道是我們開始探索這世界的基礎：提出問題，花費必要的時間來了解答案，當我們手邊的答案看起來似乎不管用的時候尋找新的答案。感覺不知道也是驚奇和敬畏的源頭。

在我女兒剛滿兩歲之前，她開始忽略她無法回答的問題。然後她會繼續回答她明知道是假的回答。我意識到她已經習慣了每次正確地回答一個問題時都會被讚賞，自然而然地對沒有產生這種反應的回答愈來愈不感興趣。但我同時也意識到某些更重要的事情：我沒有教她說“我不知道”，更不用說去讚賞她有這麼做的能力。在所有社會的和情感的學習上，孩子們需要我們幫助他們來便認出他們經驗到的許多新感受：“哦，那個蝙蝠俠服裝嚇到你，或者”我知道，當媽媽離開時，你感到難過。

所以我開始找尋一本可以幫助我們跟孩子談論關於不知道的經驗的兒童書，但是我找不到任何一本。 

我們生活在一個人們對於〝不知道〞感到不舒服的社會。 孩子們沒有被教導說“我不知道”，而且很誠實的說我們很少示範這樣的典範給孩子們 。他們也經常看到成年人避免問題和捏造答案，不管是出於感覺難堪還是恐懼，我們都為此付出了代價。當孩子們感覺到難堪或是對〝不知道〞感覺害怕時，他們會專注在逃避自己的不舒服，而不是被激勵去學習 。這剝奪了他們好奇的喜悅。 讓我們慶祝我們孩子擁有驚奇和好奇的感覺，這是所有學習的基礎。 讓我們教導孩子們說“我不知道”，並且幫助他們了解不知道背後的力量。讓我們跟他們談談當我們不了解某些事的感覺。最後，讓我們誠實的跟孩子們說關於我們自己的知識的極限。這世界還有這麽多讓我們可以一起好奇、驚奇的事物。

I believe that one of the most important gifts we can give our children is the confidence to say “I don't know.

It's the foundation from which we begin our investigation of the world: asking questions, taking the necessary time to understand the answers, and searching for new answers when the ones we have in hand don't seem to work.

The feeling of not knowing is also the source of wonder and awe.

Before my daughter turned two, she began ignoring questions she couldn't answer.

Then she moved on to giving answers she knew to be false. I realized that she had grown accustomed to being celebrated every time she answered a question correctly and was, naturally, less interested in exchanges that didn't produce this response. But l also realized something even more important:

I hadn't taught her to say "I don't know" let alone celebrated her ability to do so. 

In all social and emotional learning, children need our help identifying the many new feelings they experience:” Oh, that Batman costume scared you or "I know, you feel sad when Mommy leaves." 

So I went looking for a children's book that would help us talk about the experience of not knowing but l couldn't find one.

We live in a society where people are uncomfortable with not knowing.Children aren't taught to say "I don't know,” and honesty in this form is rarely modeled for them. They too often see adults avoiding questions and fabricating answers, out of either embarrassment or fear, and this comes at a price.When children are embarrassed by or afraid of the feeling of not knowing, they are preoccupied with escaping their discomfort, rather than being motivated to learn. This robs them of the joy of curiosity. Let's celebrate the feelings of awe and wonder in our children, as the foundation for all learning. Let's teach children to say "l don't know" and help them understand the power behind it.Let's talk to them about how it feels to not know something. And, finally, let's be honest with children about the limits of our own knowledge.There is so much for all of us to wonder about together.